I haven't totally forgotten about this blog. My husband and I have been super busy with our recent move, purchase of a new car, and many out of town guests. (A post on the new car coming soon. Best. Decision. In. A. LONG. Time.)
And so the same question comes up again.......where do we fit in?
Last night I went to a meeting at my church. We have a new (wonderful) children's minister and she led an informative meeting. I am pretty sure I have mentioned here before that I lead the preschool class on Wednesday nights. Highlight of my week! For real! I don't know what I would do without those girls. So, I went to the meeting hoping that there was some way I can help our churches ministry to children grow. About half way through the meeting a few of the ladies said that they would not be able to teach a children's Sunday School class because they are teaching new adult classes. I was all ears because we have not attended a Sunday school class yet, and I know what a blessing Sunday school classes can be.
One lady says she is going to be teaching a new young adult Sunday school class. And she described it as college age up to about 25 or so.....":before they start having kids". Then the next lady described the class she was going to be teaching as "the families in their 30s with young children." I mean I totally get it. If you want to grow the children's Sunday school program, you have to have a place where the parent's feel comfortable. It is truly a great idea.
But, where do we fit in?
I mean my husband and I are both over 30, and I don't want to be the oldest couple in a class with nothing but college kids. But we don't have kids yet, and I don't know if a can handle being the only couple in our class without children.......which is how it would be.
So, once again we just probably won't go.
I really hate to be that way. But for some reason I can handle being around the young children........but their parents is another story. I enjoy the children and they truly make me forget that I have any worries. But to listen to their parents tell cute stories when we don't have any to share, plan birthday parties that we won't be included in, set up play dates that we won't be attending for obvious reasons, discussions about child care centers that we don't have to worry about yet, or huge sales on children's clothes at Gymboree which is a place we never shop, I'm afraid I would lose it.
I really hate to be this way.
Why does infertility affect so many areas of our lives?
It isn't just that I don't have a baby. It is so much more.
So, where do we fit, or do we just not even try.